Relationship Outlook – The Sun

With the Sun coming up for your love reading, this means its time for renewed energy in the relationship.  A mutual passion for life will be ignited.  Could it be that summer and its symbolism of freedom and fun that will get to you? Thoughts of outdoor concerts, picnics on the beach and vacations to exotics lands are at play here.   Financial burdens don’t seem significant or are lessened and you are able to spend some money on luxury and pleasure (yay!)

Emotionally you and your partner are at a stage where you are truly appreciating the best aspects of each other.  Whatever doubts and cloudy days affected your relationship in the past, you are now in perfect accord.  This is one of the least complicated times of your relationship as your love and commitment seem almost simple.

When the Sun comes up to symbolize the future of your union, it suggests that this is relationship that has a strong future as you not only love each other, you truly like and enjoy each other.

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Manifesting Monday – Seek Proof of Your Success

I was speaking with a client today, this really lovely woman in New York, and we started off by having her tell me about her successes of the week   How did she know she had some success? Because she said she had “proof” of how she is attracting the things that she wants in her life.  So we went over these things that showed her that she was on the right track of having a successful directing and writing career.   

I love when my clients seek proof that they are on the right track.  To me its similar to when people look for “signs” because they basically serve as the same thing.  Reasons to confirm that you are moving forward and improving.   Proof and signs are every where, but many times people use them as reasons to say why they are failures.  “See, Julie? We broke up because its a sign that I suck in relationships”   Well, no, what if its a sign or proof that you are being authentic with yourself and you can no longer tolerate relationships that don’t work for you?  What if its proof that you and your partner didn’t really communicate well, and its a sign that you just need to learn how to do that better and/or find someone who is a better fit?  Its really how you position it, isn’t it? 

Signs and proof are like the Tarot cards – there are no “wrong” or “scary” cards, even the ones that seem intimidating like the Devil and the Death cards are just like all the others, symbols of what is happening in your life, and how you can improve your situation.  In my sessions with clients, I use the cards to help them see where they are doing well, and where they can possibly make some changes.  If their career reading is full of what they might think are “negative” cards what we do is find the solution for a smoother path.

TRY THIS:

Below is an exercise to help you find proof that you are succeeding.  What you will do is argue against your negative self, that side that says you suck.  I want you to fight with passion against that Negative Nelly and let her know that her statement about you is false!

On  a blank piece of paper,  write down the numbers 1-3 and leave about 3 inches in between.   With each number write down why you think you can’t attract the things you want.   Now write down 5 reasons why that is not true, include proof why you WILL be able to attract these things and what you are currently doing.

Example:

1) I can’t expand my business because I don’t know what I need to do

This is not true because:

- When I’m confused I usually seek help from friends or family who might have some answers

- I have been reading books to help me learn more

- Lately I have sought out mentors who have been helping me

- I know there are plenty of courses that I can take, and have already taken a few that have helped me.

- I don’t even know why I say that  as I actually HAVE expanded my business – I have 25% more clients than last year.

Relationship Outlook – The Star Reversed

You’ve probably noticed that my readings about love situations have big challenges.  While I am a lover of love and believe that there are many amazing relationships out there, most people come to me for readings when things are not going as well as they would like, not when they are 100% happy with their relationships.

Lately I have seen The Star Reversed come up in love readings.  When this card shows up to describe a love situation it may signify that a relationship is going through a rough patch.  There seems to be underlying tension which has been eating away at the relationship.   One or both of you have resentments that have not been fully resolved.   Maybe you discussed things on a superficial level or there was even a big fight over the problem, but you never really resolved the issue.

An example of this is my client who came to me because he thought that things with his girlfriend were not going very well.  He said that he didn’t really know why but their relationship was tense and things were really weird between them sometimes.   As we looked at this situation through some readings, we discovered there had been a situation a few weeks back in which my client had been upset that his girlfriend was flirting with her co worker at a party  in ways he thought were inappropriate (too much touching and laughing). When he confronted her later, because they both had been drinking, there was a big fight.   When they talked about it the next day,  she said she “wouldn’t do that in front of him” again and made the discussion end there.  Hmmmmm.   They both kind of let it go at that point and went on with their lives.  While at first they were loveydovey little things started setting them off.  That is because below the surface each of them had issues that they never talked about, which were really at the core of the flirting fiasco.   As a writer/director my client has not been working steadily in the last few months.  Because of this, his self esteem has taken a hit and he has been having some fears that his girlfriend would find someone else (like the dreaded co worker) and leave him.   What we saw in the cards for her, was that she may be holding on to some resentments about money and having to pay for most of their expenses because his lack of work.

Through a relationship reading we saw that there was still a lot of love there so this was still a salvageable situation.  I suggested that he bring up the tension he had been feeling and take responsibility for his part in it.  While it was up to her to bring up her own issues at least he would be able to tell her what he would do to make things better between them.

When The Star reversed comes up for you in a reading, be sure to get to the root of the issues by being honest with yourself about what you’ve been doing to create pain or cause tension.  Only when we are honest with ourselves and take responsibility for our actions can we move forward in finding solutions towards a more loving relationship.  The Star card is also about hope and healing, so know that there is still a chance to make things beautiful again.

How a Love Destiny Reading Can Help You Find “The One”

Whether you are single and looking for love or already in a relationship and in need of some reassurance, certain Tarot spreads can assist you in getting the clarity that you need to have success in love.

Here are some ways I use the Tarot cards during a Love Destiny session to help you find the relationship that is perfect for you.

1. What Do You Really Want in a Relationship?

Most of us have preconceived ideas of what an ideal relationship should be like. But most often, those are generic notions of what should be “perfect” for us. There are so many qualities, beliefs and lifestyle choices that we have made that don’t always mix well with the people we think we want. What’s important is that we understand our specific criteria of what we believe the relationship should look and feel like and what qualities in a partner are the best fit. Using the Tarot cards, you can hone in on what it is you are really looking for in a relationship. 

• What do I need from a relationship?

• What makes an ideal partner for me?

• What does an ideal relationship look and feel like?

2. Uncover your Love Blocks.

I have so many clients who come to me saying “Where is he/she?! I’ve been doing everything I can to find love and yet…nothing!”  “Hmmmm” is what I say out loud but as I am often dubious of that kind of statement I’m really thinking,  “Have you let go of your ex (spiritually, emotionally, and/or physically?). Do you still hold on to negative beliefs about relationships because your parents are divorced/had a rough relationship? Have you had negative experiences with intimacy? Could you be sending out mixed messages to possible suitors? And most importantly, do you secretly doubt love will happen for you?”

To find out if there are any blocks like the ones I mentioned above, we do a reading or two to find out what’s in your way. What’s great about this is once you know what the issues are, we can come up with some solutions to break past these blocks and help you to get ready to attract that love you want.

3. Find Out Who Would Make a Perfect Partner.

If you are already in relationship, we can see if that person is a good match. We look at the energy between you to see what works and what doesn’t. If there are some challenges, there may be ways to work on them. Or we can look into finding out who would be a better match. Your love match may still be out there looking for you too.

The Tarot cards each have their own personalities and characteristics, making them ideal for understanding who would be a perfect match for you.

4. Get Clear on How You are Presenting Yourself.

If I were to ask you (and I will), what your most attractive qualities are, what would you say? How would you best describe who you are and what you have to offer in a relationship? What do you have to say about your work, your lifestyle, your values, your beliefs, your likes and dislikes? What is your ‘personal brand’?  Our session can help you get clear on how you are presenting yourself and if its a match for who you really are. This reading will not only help you to become more authentic but also show you how to shine in your best light.

5. Learn When You Will Find Love.

Timing is everything.  Our Tarot session can help you see if you are ready and when you may find a relationship. With this reading if a specific card is upright, the coast is clear and the conditions are right to find love. If the card is reversed, you may first need to overcome obstacles or you may be delayed in reaching the timeframe specified.

6. Receive a Love Action Report.

Through our session we carefully review all of the above issues and more – if you also have some specific questions, great! We can use those too. I work to help you find solutions for the blocks and make sure that any chaotic or stagnant things start moving gracefully.  After our session I provide the notes from the readings and then send you a Love Action Report. The Love Action Report will aid you in removing blocks and taking the necessary action towards becoming your best self to fall in love with YOU. Which will ultimately help you attract and maintain the most amazing love life.

Set up your Love Destiny Reading for only $149 (reg. $225).

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Manifesting Monday

I’ve had a lot of new clients in the last few weeks, many of them new to getting their Tarot cards read and “this law of attraction stuff.”  So for this week’s Manifesting Monday post, I thought I would go back to some basics.

Before you continue to read this blog, I’d like for you to look around you and think about what you see.   The chair you are sitting on.  The framed photos on your desk.  Books that you love.   Even if you are in a cafe or library, please take note of everything.  Do you realize that before any of these items were in your possession or around you, someone had to think about making them? There was an idea, perhaps a plan, then action and creation. In fact the room and situation you created for yourself may have come to you because you thought about what you wanted. The most basic principal of creativity simply states that your thought creates. If you want something, whether it be an experience or a thing, begin first by having a clear and focused thought of what it is you want.

Wherever you clearly put your focus, you attract and create.  That is the Law of Attraction.

Think about something you desire. Concentrate and focus as clearly as possible on what you want. If  the vision of what you want is not clear, then your focus will be blurred.  If what you want is heartfelt, your focus will be sharp. Desire directs focus. Blurry desires will never materialize but focused desires will. Clear focus is like the mind’s magic wand.  It points your creativity in a specific direction and channels all your energy and experience behind it. 

Whatever you focus on, you attract into your life whether you want to or not.

Sometimes you may find yourself focusing on negative things. The Law of Attraction doesn’t decipher what is negative or positive. It just gives you whatever you clearly focus on.

Are you focusing on your bad relationships? You’ll attract even more of the same. Focus instead on how excited you are to attract new healthy relationships.

Always thinking about how broke you are and confused why you continue to not have money? Hmmmmm, do you know the answer now? Yes, you’re getting the hang of it… focus instead on how great it is to be in the process of acquiring more money.

For this week’s Manifesting Monday exercise, write down something specific that you want to bring into your life. Imagine it clearly. Use all your senses to bring it to life. What do you see, smell, taste, feel, hear when you imagine having it? Put yourself in the picture of your vision. Can you see and feel yourself having the thing you want? The clearer the picture the stronger your ability to manifest your desire. Even if you are skeptical, for an experiment just play along and imagine anyway.  Something amazing may come out of it.

What will you choose to think about this week?

Tarot Tuesday ~ The World {Reversed}

The World Reversed  may show up to reveal to you that what you thought was a successful accomplishment will continue to bring you feelings of struggle.   You’ve worked so hard to get what you wanted but now it doesn’t feel as you thought it should.  Is it just a set back or delay in gratification or is this not what you thought it would be?

In the case of a client, she had married a man whom she thought was the perfect match for her.  She dated many “bad boys” in the past, the kinds of guys who were uber hot, but also uber terrible at commitment and fidelity.  So of course this level headed sweetheart with his calm demeanor, great job and amazing family really seemed like “husband material.”  After three years of dating, they married in a storybook setting that even a Disney Princess would envy.   Yet, now just barely two years in, the magic has already dulled – the sex is almost non existent and there is a brother/sister energy between them.  This gorgeous woman tells me even attempts at dressing sexy are met with responses that feel like “meh” from her often distant hubby.  

This doesn’t have to mean the end for this couple.  While two years into a marriage seems to be too soon to have that level of boredom, the rest of the cards are important for this reading. Marriage is a serious commitment for most people and my client takes her vows very seriously so she wanted to do what she could to make things work.   What came up next in the reading for this situation was The Moon reversed, The Wheel of Fortune reversed, The Hierophant reversed and The Empress, which showed that he had his own issues he was dealing with that he was not telling her.  It seemed that he was experiencing stress with work and money and his own perception of her need to have attention and be “spoiled” created some resentment.  Through couples therapy it was revealed that he has always had the feeling that she was settling to be with him, and with money being a possible issue, he created this resentment that he would not be good enough for her if she knew this.  The thing is, she had a job in which she was making great money and didn’t marry him for that.  So while he has to own up to his own feelings of insecurity and the poor way he was taking it out on her, she’s  also looking into whatever energy and attitude she was sending out that may have made the relationship feel unbalanced. 

What I love about Tarot in relationship readings is not that it tells you your relationship outcome but more importantly that it can give you insight on what is really happening and advice on how to take action. There are so many things that are left unsaid, but yet the resentments exist and often grow.   A Lover’s Tarot Reading allows clients to see what they might not be consciously aware of, but can now address.  Not all readings have relationships come out with happy results, but most turn out to be the best solutions for overall and long term happiness.

Manifesting Monday ~ Desires vs. Beliefs

I’ve seen and heard this many times – a client will tell me they want something, such as a new job or a love relationship, but then the next words that come out of their mouth is
“but I don’t know if I believe that it exists” or “I don’t think it will really happen for me.”

Desires vs. Beliefs  means that what you say you want and what your sense of “reality” tells you are at odds with each other.  In your heart you know you really want something but your head cuts you off with “stop with that silly daydreaming!“  So guess what?  Your beliefs will most often win.  Why?  Because when we believe something to be true, we look for proof -reasons why – it has to be true, even if it works against our heart’s desires.

When working with my clients, I use the Tarot to help them get clear on what they want, which is really Stage One of Manifesting – CLARITY.  Once their desires are clear we look for the blocks, like the opposing beliefs we were just talking about.    A client from this weekend told me that he wanted to leave his job for a better paying one that he could be passionate about.   Then I waited for what I knew would come next “…but I don’t think I can find that.” 

What I suggest for my clients to do is, instead of finding reasons why something can’t happen, find reasons why it can.  And make those reasons so strong that your beliefs change to help you find your desires, not fight against them.  I know that it may be natural for some people to have a negative belief come up first so I suggest you try this

Write down at the top of a piece of paper what you want to manifest. 

Example:

I want to get married and have a family

Next, write down the first reason that comes into your head why this will not happen for you

I don’t believe that there is anyone out there who I can fall in love with and will fall in love with me

Now, what I need you to do is write down 5 Reasons Why it is Not True

1. I haven’t really been looking for love, I’ve  been a hermit

2. I know people who have fallen in love and gotten married who are similar to me

3. I am a lovable person with lots to offer a partner

4. There are plenty of people out there that are ready to have a serious relationship and at least one of them is looking for someone like me

5. People fall in love every day

Do this exercise to combat every negative thought that comes into your head.  If the thought is:  “I can’t leave my relationship because I can’t find someone else to love me” then write down 5 reasons why that is not true.  It must be at least five because its important that the reasons why its not true are stronger than why you think this negative belief is true.  When you practice this way of thinking, soon enough those reasons why you CAN get something will win over and law of attraction will work in your favor.  And yes, while it may not be an overnight change -you’ve had those negative beliefs for a while after all -I’ve seen amazing things happen with my clients all the time.  They have gone from being in jobs they can’t stand to attracting or creating a career they love.  They have attracted healthy love into their lives when their old beliefs told them love was not meant for them.  Even if you are a skeptic, try it, and see what happens.  I would love to hear what changes happen for you – livelovetarot@ymail.com

 

Tarot Tuesday – The Devil {Relationship Examples}

When reading about a person, The Devil card can symbolize a man or woman of money or erotic power, aggressive, controlling, and in may cases, highly addictive energy. We don’t judge and say its a “bad person” but certainly a powerful person who is hard to resist.  With my clients, maybe this card represents a person who spends lots of money on beautiful things and fun experiences, is amazing and highly addictive in bed and/or gives them an excess of adoration and attention.  Yes, I know, who doesn’t want some of that, at least once in a while?  Well, because often there is a big price to pay.  So, I know when this card shows up, this means that they may need to be careful or they will end up needing this powerful person to give them false confidence and identity.   But if The Devil comes up in the card placement signifying their own energy,  I know that they may be engaging in their own highly manipulative, obsessive behaviors.  There could be an interdependent relationship in which the addict and pusher have created a relationship that is not healthy for either.

With two of my clients The Devil has shown up to represent people from their recent past relationships.   And here is where things get tricky…

Client Stories:

“T” is a business/manifesting coaching client who can’t focus on her projects because she is currently obsessed with an ex and his perceived happiness with a new woman.   She wavers between talking about how terrible he is and also how much she misses the way he spoiled her. Although she knows its “wrong” she is very jealous of the new woman who in her mind is getting all kinds of “good stuff” like exotic trips and shopping sprees.   She knows that she was authentic to herself for breaking up with him because his hyper controlling and critical behavior towards her diminished her self esteem and caused her to constantly doubt herself.   Yet, she wavers between whether she made a mistake in leaving and wanting him to be unhappy in his new relationship, which she is convinced is a disaster in the making.  So during the Tarot Reading segment of our session she wants to ask questions like “is he happier with her than me?” “Is he more f*cked up about our break up than I am?”

“J” is a Tarot client who is obsessed with his ex, a beautiful older woman who in his mind can attract and be with any one she wants.   He believed her to be the “perfect woman.”  So when she told him that he wasn’t up to par in the financial aspect of his life and therefore would seek a more wealthy partner (while continuing to date him!)  his self esteem took a huge hit.   Mind you, this is a good looking, ambitious and artistically talented guy.   There are many women that are interested in him.  But his heart and mind always went back to her.  He was finally able to walk away but her recent attempts at spending time together has him confused.   He tells me he doesn’t want her back, but he is obsessed with making her want him and to admit that he was the best thing that ever happened to her.   So a question he often wants to ask?  “How can I make her become obsessed with me?”  This my friends, is a game that you can not win.

Lessons:

For both of these clients, I recommended focusing on their own life goals not on another person.  Yes, it may seem cliche but its so true.  When we put our energy on another person and try to control an outcome, especially one that has a negative intention, we are only hurting ourselves.  Whenever we think we want to manipulate another person’s happiness then we bring up the darkness and sadness in our own lives.  This multiplies when it causes us to take time away from focusing on and moving towards the amazing things that are in our future.

This quote from Buddha is succinct in this lesson:

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

This Week’s Manifesting Mirror Mantra – 5/6

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Tarot Tuesday – The Moon {Reversed}

The Moon Reversed tells us that there is a situation that may feel very unclear  and confusing to you.   What you thought you knew or believed to be true about your situation is now turning out to be false and/or disappointing.   This card is showing up to tell you that you need more clarity on the situation before you move forward.  If you are waiting on an answer from someone, it may unfortunately take quite a bit longer than you would like for it to.  There are still some things to learn about this person and the situation and its best that you be patient while the truth unfolds.  

For a client of mine, this card came up to show her that a job she had been “offered” from a friend was not actually as easy to get as she thought.  The impression he gave her was that he was overseeing the hiring of the well-paying position and if she accepted, it would be hers.  After coming in the discuss the job, she found that she still had to go through an extensive screening and interview process just like other candidates.  And his was not the final word for hiring for the position.  Of course she came to me upset and with questions about what to do next.   Luckily for her the rest of her cards revealed that while it would be a longer process, the rest of the team would be impressed wit her and she would eventually get the job, which she did…3 months later!