Tarot Tuesday ~ Judgement (+ a sneak peek at my new Tarot Deck)

 

I am so excited about a new Tarot project I’ve been working on!  I’ve recently commissioned a very talented artist, Michael Shirley, to design a set of Tarot cards for me.  I’d love to share a sneak peek and while giving you a Tarot Tuesday Card of the Day!

The Judgement card shows up to tell you to take some time out for self reflection. Its your time to move forward to a new, more elevated phase in your life, but before that happens take the opportunity now to stop and think about lessons learned. What are the things you want to leave behind and what do you want to take with you as you start a new chapter in your life? Are there people you can choose to forgive, are there some shifts in outlook and emotions that are important to make? Often this is the stage of creating deeper awareness and paradigm shifts. Let go of unnecessary “baggage” and create space for new memories ~ you’re about to begin your exciting new journey!

 

{Manifesting Monday} Using the Law of Attraction

I’ve had a lot of new clients in the last few weeks, many of them new to getting their Tarot cards read and “this law of attraction stuff.”  So for this week’s Manifesting Monday post, I thought I would go back to some basics.

Before you continue to read this blog, I’d like for you to look around you and think about what you see.   The chair you are sitting on.  The framed photos on your desk.  Books that you love.   Even if you are in a cafe or library, please take note of everything.  Do you realize that before any of these items were in your possession or around you, someone had to think about making them? There was an idea, perhaps a plan, then action and creation. In fact the room and situation you created for yourself may have come to you because you thought about what you wanted. The most basic principal of creativity simply states that your thought creates. If you want something, whether it be an experience or a thing, begin first by having a clear and focused thought of what it is you want.

Wherever you clearly put your focus, you attract and create.  That is the Law of Attraction.

Think about something you desire. Concentrate and focus as clearly as possible on what you want. If  the vision of what you want is not clear, then your focus will be blurred.  If what you want is heartfelt, your focus will be sharp. Desire directs focus. Blurry desires will never materialize but focused desires will. Clear focus is like the mind’s magic wand.  It points your creativity in a specific direction and channels all your energy and experience behind it. 

Whatever you focus on, you attract into your life whether you want to or not.

Sometimes you may find yourself focusing on negative things. The Law of Attraction doesn’t decipher what is negative or positive. It just gives you whatever you clearly focus on.

Are you focusing on your bad relationships? You’ll attract even more of the same. Focus instead on how excited you are to attract new healthy relationships.

Always thinking about how broke you are and confused why you continue to not have money? Hmmmmm, do you know the answer now? Yes, you’re getting the hang of it… focus instead on how great it is to be in the process of acquiring more money.

For this week’s Manifesting Monday exercise, write down something specific that you want to bring into your life. Imagine it clearly. Use all your senses to bring it to life. What do you see, smell, taste, feel, hear when you imagine having it? Put yourself in the picture of your vision. Can you see and feel yourself having the thing you want? The clearer the picture the stronger your ability to manifest your desire. Even if you are skeptical, for an experiment just play along and imagine anyway.  Something amazing may come out of it.

What will you choose to think about this week?

{Manifesting Monday} Seek Proof of Your Success

I was speaking with a client today, this really lovely woman in New York, and we started off by having her tell me about her successes of the week   How did she know she had some success? Because she said she had “proof” of how she is attracting the things that she wants in her life.  So we went over these things that showed her that she was on the right track of having a successful directing and writing career.

I love when my clients seek proof that they are on the right track.  To me its similar to when people look for “signs” because they basically serve as the same thing.  Reasons to confirm that you are moving forward and improving.   Proof and signs are every where, but many times people use them as reasons to say why they are failures.  “See, Julie? We broke up because its a sign that I suck in relationships”   Well, no, what if its a sign or proof that you are being authentic with yourself and you can no longer tolerate relationships that don’t work for you?  What if its proof that you and your partner didn’t really communicate well, and its a sign that you just need to learn how to do that better and/or find someone who is a better fit?  Its really how you position it, isn’t it?

Signs and proof are like the Tarot cards – there are no “wrong” or “scary” cards, even the ones that seem intimidating like the Devil and the Death cards are just like all the others, symbols of what is happening in your life, and how you can improve your situation.  In my sessions with clients, I use the cards to help them see where they are doing well, and where they can possibly make some changes.  If their career reading is full of what they might think are “negative” cards what we do is find the solution for a smoother path.

TRY THIS:

Below is an exercise to help you find proof that you are succeeding.  What you will do is argue against your negative self, that side that says you suck.  I want you to fight with passion against that Negative Nelly and let her know that her statement about you is false!

On  a blank piece of paper,  write down the numbers 1-3 and leave about 3 inches in between.   With each number write down each thing you have been focusing on to create/change/manifest.   Now write down 3-5 things that prove that you have been taking actions towards these things.

Example:

Proof Exercise 

1) I want to increase my business income by at least 20%

Proof that you’ve been moving forward with this

– I’ve asked for  help from friends or family for ideas to promote my business

– I have been reading books to help me learn more

– I’ve started new social media pages for marketing

– I’ve been working on an affiliate program

– I’ve been networking 2 times a month

Do this exercise whenever you feel stuck or are being hard on yourself about your ability to take action. This exercise will serve as your Proof List to show you that you’ve been taking action.  If you don’t have a big list, that’s ok, just do something now to add to it.

How a Love Destiny Reading Can Help You Find “The One”

Whether you are single and looking for love or already in a relationship and in need of some reassurance, certain Tarot spreads can assist you in getting the clarity that you need to have success in love.

Here are some ways I use the Tarot cards during a Love Destiny session to help you find the relationship that is perfect for you.

1. What Do You Really Want in a Relationship?

Most of us have preconceived ideas of what an ideal relationship should be like. But most often, those are generic notions of what should be “perfect” for us. There are so many qualities, beliefs and lifestyle choices that we have made that don’t always mix well with the people we think we want. What’s important is that we understand our specific criteria of what we believe the relationship should look and feel like and what qualities in a partner are the best fit. Using the Tarot cards, you can hone in on what it is you are really looking for in a relationship. 

• What do I need from a relationship?

• What makes an ideal partner for me?

• What does an ideal relationship look and feel like?

2. Uncover your Love Blocks.

I have so many clients who come to me saying “Where is he/she?! I’ve been doing everything I can to find love and yet…nothing!”  “Hmmmm” is what I say out loud but as I am often dubious of that kind of statement I’m really thinking,  “Have you let go of your ex (spiritually, emotionally, and/or physically?). Do you still hold on to negative beliefs about relationships because your parents are divorced/had a rough relationship? Have you had negative experiences with intimacy? Could you be sending out mixed messages to possible suitors? And most importantly, do you secretly doubt love will happen for you?”

To find out if there are any blocks like the ones I mentioned above, we do a reading or two to find out what’s in your way. What’s great about this is once you know what the issues are, we can come up with some solutions to break past these blocks and help you to get ready to attract that love you want.

3. Find Out Who Would Make a Perfect Partner.

If you are already in relationship, we can see if that person is a good match. We look at the energy between you to see what works and what doesn’t. If there are some challenges, there may be ways to work on them. Or we can look into finding out who would be a better match. Your love match may still be out there looking for you too.

The Tarot cards each have their own personalities and characteristics, making them ideal for understanding who would be a perfect match for you.

4. Get Clear on How You are Presenting Yourself.

If I were to ask you (and I will), what your most attractive qualities are, what would you say? How would you best describe who you are and what you have to offer in a relationship? What do you have to say about your work, your lifestyle, your values, your beliefs, your likes and dislikes? What is your ‘personal brand’?  Our session can help you get clear on how you are presenting yourself and if its a match for who you really are. This reading will not only help you to become more authentic but also show you how to shine in your best light.

5. Learn When You Will Find Love.

Timing is everything.  Our Tarot session can help you see if you are ready and when you may find a relationship. With this reading if a specific card is upright, the coast is clear and the conditions are right to find love. If the card is reversed, you may first need to overcome obstacles or you may be delayed in reaching the timeframe specified.

6. Receive a Love Action Report.

Through our session we carefully review all of the above issues and more – if you also have some specific questions, great! We can use those too. I work to help you find solutions for the blocks and make sure that any chaotic or stagnant things start moving gracefully.  After our session I provide the notes from the readings and then send you a Love Action Report. The Love Action Report will aid you in removing blocks and taking the necessary action towards becoming your best self to fall in love with YOU. Which will ultimately help you attract and maintain the most amazing love life.

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Tarot Tuesday – The Devil {Relationship Examples}

When reading about a person, The Devil card can symbolize a man or woman of money or erotic power, aggressive, controlling, and in may cases, highly addictive energy. We don’t judge and say its a “bad person” but certainly a powerful person who is hard to resist.  With my clients, maybe this card represents a person who spends lots of money on beautiful things and fun experiences, is amazing and highly addictive in bed and/or gives them an excess of adoration and attention.  Yes, I know, who doesn’t want some of that, at least once in a while?  Well, because often there is a big price to pay.  So, I know when this card shows up, this means that they may need to be careful or they will end up needing this powerful person to give them false confidence and identity.   But if The Devil comes up in the card placement signifying their own energy,  I know that they may be engaging in their own highly manipulative, obsessive behaviors.  There could be an interdependent relationship in which the addict and pusher have created a relationship that is not healthy for either.

With two of my clients The Devil has shown up to represent people from their recent past relationships.   And here is where things get tricky…

Client Stories:

“T” is a business/manifesting coaching client who can’t focus on her projects because she is currently obsessed with an ex and his perceived happiness with a new woman.   She wavers between talking about how terrible he is and also how much she misses the way he spoiled her. Although she knows its “wrong” she is very jealous of the new woman who in her mind is getting all kinds of “good stuff” like exotic trips and shopping sprees.   She knows that she was authentic to herself for breaking up with him because his hyper controlling and critical behavior towards her diminished her self esteem and caused her to constantly doubt herself.   Yet, she wavers between whether she made a mistake in leaving and wanting him to be unhappy in his new relationship, which she is convinced is a disaster in the making.  So during the Tarot Reading segment of our session she wants to ask questions like “is he happier with her than me?” “Is he more f*cked up about our break up than I am?”

“J” is a Tarot client who is obsessed with his ex, a beautiful older woman who in his mind can attract and be with any one she wants.   He believed her to be the “perfect woman.”  So when she told him that he wasn’t up to par in the financial aspect of his life and therefore would seek a more wealthy partner (while continuing to date him!)  his self esteem took a huge hit.   Mind you, this is a good looking, ambitious and artistically talented guy.   There are many women that are interested in him.  But his heart and mind always went back to her.  He was finally able to walk away but her recent attempts at spending time together has him confused.   He tells me he doesn’t want her back, but he is obsessed with making her want him and to admit that he was the best thing that ever happened to her.   So a question he often wants to ask?  “How can I make her become obsessed with me?”  This my friends, is a game that you can not win.

Lessons:

For both of these clients, I recommended focusing on their own life goals not on another person.  Yes, it may seem cliche but its so true.  When we put our energy on another person and try to control an outcome, especially one that has a negative intention, we are only hurting ourselves.  Whenever we think we want to manipulate another person’s happiness then we bring up the darkness and sadness in our own lives.  This multiplies when it causes us to take time away from focusing on and moving towards the amazing things that are in our future.

This quote from Buddha is succinct in this lesson:

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

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How My Client Found Love through “Love Club”

During our 3rd week of Love Club (my Ready for Love Manifesting Group) one of the group members had an exciting announcement. “I have a boyfriend now!” she told the rest of the group who was surprised but very happy for her. How did that happen so fast? We were only in Week 3 after all. The truth is I had been working with her in a one on one coaching program (focusing on career issues) for several weeks. During one of our sessions, while making her Life Vision Board, I noticed that she had everything she was dreaming of represented on her board…except any pictures that had to do with Love! Why? I asked. She didn’t even notice, or so she said. When we delved a little deeper it became clear that her negative feelings about past relationships, her own guilt about certain things she did, and her desire to keep her independence was making her subconsciously and consciously push away real relationships. She was in fact currently dating a few guys. One of them sounded pretty promising. A nice, handsome guy who was really sweet to her. Yet she didn’t seem to have much excitement for him. She focused more on another one, who, after hearing about his attitudes and actions, didn’t sound to be very “boyfriendy.”

When I see “blocks” within my clients I suggest, before moving forward, to release those things that keep them from getting what they really want. So I gave her some homework which consisted of doing a little personal inventory and then gave her a releasing ritual. Over the next couple of sessions she said she felt lighter and was getting more clarity about her love life.

By the time Love Club started, just a few weeks later, her energy felt open & positive and she was ready to address her issues. Let me say this is KEY to finding love. You may say that you want love in your life, but if you are still closed and you allow excuses, fear and negative energy to get in your way, you will find it very challenging. During group we did more “work” getting to the bottom of their issues, releasing negative energy, and finding clarity to move towards the love they want.

So it was actually very natural that she started to see that the emotionally healthy guy (who I saw as a great fit for her) was the one she really wanted. And when they were on their 5th date and he asked what she thought about being his girlfriend, she happily said “Yes!” Now they are in a committed relationship and are deliciously healthy and adorable. Drama free, which to emotionally unhealthy people may seem “boring” but to those in a better emotional space, know there is more time and room for amazing positive experiences together. I’m still working with her on career issues as well and let me say, her life is truly magical like a ROCK STAR 😉

How to Crush on Your Career

“There is only one success – to be able to spend your life in your own way.”

~ Christopher Morley

Almost daily clients come to me seeking advice and guidance about their “life path.” I hear questions like “which direction should I be going towards in my career?” or “what should I be doing with my life?” Even the most confident and ambitious person may come to that cross roads in their life where they no longer feel comfortable with direction their life has taken them. Somewhere along the way, they may have made decisions that were more about being practical and lost track of what really made them happy or why they chose that profession in the first place.

This reminds me of last week, when my BFF Maxine and I had a lovely 3-hour lunch on a Tuesday at our favorite fun sushi spot in West Hollywood. We have weekly appointed “girl time” in which we also incorporate our “co-coaching” business sessions somewhere in the middle of the food, drinks and laughter. On this particular day, we both stopped to acknowledge how fortunate we were to be doing exactly what we wanted in our careers. Ok, so the conversation actually went something like this.

ME: “Hey, isn’t it awesome that we are doing exactly what we love?

HER: “OMG, totally! I am so crushing on my career!” (Yes, even as adult entrepreneurial women we still talk this way) .

Being friends since we were 11, Maxine and I know exactly what makes the other happy, what our true skills are and what motivates us. Because we love proving our own points, we made a list of why we had super-crushes on our careers (when we were in high school this was usually a list of our super-crushes on boys. Oh, who am I kidding. We’ve made crush lists all our lives and we still do).

ME: (as a Tarot Reader and Manifesting Coach/Entrepreneur) I have always loved helping people, using my knowledge of psychology/human behavior, being independent/not having other people tell me what to do, telling other people what to do, using my intuition to see how a situation will lead to an outcome, crisis counseling, creating programs, using Tarot cards, using Law of Attraction, flexible schedule/ability to travel, tied to the celebrity & entertainment world, public speaking, empowering people, lots of social interaction, income that has no salary limits.

MAXINE: (as Founder and Chief of Vanity Girl Hollywood/Brand Ambassador/Entrepreneur) She loves glamour, make up, sparkly things, talking about/creating/surrounding herself in beauty, luxury, using her skills in PR, marketing and branding, international travel, connecting people, celebrities & entertainment, networking, red carpet events, writing, public speaking, flexible schedule, business, and unlimited income potential.

It’s pretty exciting to know that we have created so much happiness + success in our businesses. What’s more exciting is that our businesses continue to grow because they don’t feel like work, so they move (mostly) with ease and grace. The truth is, everyone can create careers that they love. If you know what you want to spend your time doing, where your skills are, and how those skills can help others then you are more than halfway there.

Working with my clients through this process is actually really fun. I start with some basics, which include confidence building which helps to remind them that they can and have already created many things in their lives out of “nothing.” Then we move towards finding out their skills and passions. Just last night I had a 60 minute session with a new client in Boston and helped her carve out a new path for her career. She’s moving away from real estate and going into the parenting advice arena. She’s totally excited and invigorated now and I am excited to see how she progresses. One of my other clients who has been through my manifesting groups as well as individual coaching, is a beautiful super-social woman with pretty impressive flirting skills . She’s also a lover of love and always notices women’s engagement rings. Is it any surprise that she’s crushing on the Love & Attraction Coaching biz we developed for her?  And to find your Career Crush,  you don’t have to have dreams of being an entrepreneur.   I had a client who is tri lingual and has an MBA but she came to realize she wanted to be an Executive Assistant.   Why?  Because she loved supporting powerful people, being the behind-the-scenes hero and she wanted the prestige of  working for a Fortune 500 company.  Plus she said she loved dressing up and working in an office.

The biggest obstacle that stops you from attracting your dream career is not that it doesn’t exist (it does) or that you can’t make money doing what you love (you can). You must first believe that you can do it. But isn’t that amazing that you have control over that? You can change how you feel and your mind set about your career. It’s all up to you.

If you are ready to find some clarity about your life direction let me know how I can help. As you know from reading this, I would love to.