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Did you know there is a very powerful day in which the Sun and Jupiter are BOTH in Leo creating a unique opportunity to shine and enjoy amazing rewards from taking risks and going after your dreams? TODAY is that day! This is a perfect time for you focus and take action to create a life you’ve always wanted.  Nidhi, my colleague of Bliss by Numbers and I had an awesome online workshop on Monday in which we revealed some special tips for our participants to take advantage of this supercharged energy.  Here is a shortcut version of our event.

1. Clear Your Emotional Space.
Before you begin the manifestation process for The Luckiest Day of the Year, its important for you to let go of all your yucky negative beliefs around your ability to be happy. One of the best ways is to first see and understand the blocks in your way. Once you do this, you can then ask the Universe for guidance to clear those blocks that keep you from believing in your awesomeness. You may be having negative thoughts because of the challenges that you’ve been experiencing lately. You want to re evaluate those challenges to see why the Universe had brought them to you. Maybe you’ve been guided to the relationship that brings up all your negative stuff so that you have to finally heal your fear of abandonment. Or maybe you lost your job because you weren’t even happy anymore but just staying for fear of change and the Universe felt you needed a push. You need to trust that these challenges, however tough at times, are incredible opportunities for you to clean your energy and create space to call in what you desire.
WHAT TO DO: Say a “prayer” asking the Universe to set you free from all the limiting beliefs that block you from believing in your greatness. Once you have said your prayer believe that its working and that you are now releasing the limiting beliefs you’ve been holding on to about yourself. Act as if you now have that positive mindset you need to start attracting things you want.

2. Clear Your Physical Space.
Clearing your space means getting rid of things in your life that you no longer need so that you can open up space for new exciting things that you need and want now. You may have items that have been put away but never used – GET RID OF THEM! This is a perfect way to open the space for more abundance in your life. The clutter in your bedroom often represents a blockage in your love life. If you hold onto pictures of your former lover for whom you still have some sort of attachment, that may be the reason why you haven’t attracted another love in a long time. You may wonder why you are not more abundant in your finances. If you hold on to items because in some way you believe there is not enough or there is some thought of lack behind it, then this may cause a blockage in you experiencing more financial prosperity.
WHAT TO DO: Take a moment to choose a room or area in your house in which you would like to clear some space. Once you’ve chosen an area, use your phone or some sort of timing device to allot about 20-30 minutes for clearing. Take a bag and start placing things that you no longer want into it to clear space. You may want to have two bags, one for trash and the other to give to charity. Once the timer is up, stop. You’ve now created energetic space for things to come into your life.

3. Show Some Gratitude
Gratitude is an important aspect in raising your vibration and aligning you with the things you want to attract. We should all take time to stop and be thankful for what has been already been brought into our lives. Don’t you notice that the most unhappy, frowny-faced people are the ones who only want to focus on what’s bad and irritating about their lives? I’m sure you’ve also noticed that it doesn’t feel good to be around them. Their vibrations are just so low, that often being around them energetically feels painful. I just know that you aren’t one of those people because you know that focusing on what’s good ESPECIALLY in hard times is the best choice of action. Why? Because the more you focus on what’s good, the stronger your ability to attract more of that good stuff. Conversely, if you choose to focus on what sucks, you’ll just get more of that.
The Universe gives back more to those who show appreciation, the next time you have a problem or you find yourself struggling with something. Instead of struggling and becoming emotionally involved with your difficulty just calm down and ask your mind and the Universe for help.

WHAT TO DO: Write down 5 things you are grateful for. If any of them include people, take time today to contact those people (email, text, in person…) to tell them you are grateful for them and why. My suggestion is to include at least 2 people on your list today. The more people you positively connect with on The Luckiest Day of the Year, the better!

4. Get Crazy Clear About What You Want, Then Ask the Universe For It.
When you are at a restaurant, you don’t tell the waiter, “ummm I just want some sort of meat thing.” No, I’m pretty sure you tell them exactly what you want. You probably add even more specifics like “salad on the side, add lemon and no dressing.” Asking the Universe for what you want is just like that only what’s even cooler is that you can say at the end of your request “this or better” and the Universe might just give you an up-leveled VIP surprise! Why? Because the Universe, unlike you and your limited experiences, knows what else is out there, and may feel that something even more awesome is what you really need now.
For The Luckiest Day of the Year, its important to keep focused on what you want to ask, so I would suggest picking 1 or 2 things that you want to put your full manifesting energy towards today.
WHAT TO DO: Think about what you want to attract – is it love or a new job?…are you feeling bold enough to ask for both? Once you have decided, get VERY specific about what you want. Imagine it in your mind, see the details. Think about what it will feel like and even what it may sound like. Once you can fully imagine it, tell the Universe about it, then say “I want this or better”

5. Accept and Say Thank You.
The final step in attracting what you want is to believe that these actions you have taken will now allow for the things you want (or better) to come to you.
WHAT TO DO: Choose a peaceful environment for you to sit quietly to meditate for about 5-10 minutes. The space doesn’t need to be very large – a walk-in closet or even your office can be used for meditation, as long as it’s somewhere private. Now imagine that the things that you have asked for today are arriving at your door. If its love, you can imagine a representation of love such as cupid or a heart. You can also imagine a person but you don’t have to have a clear image of them. If it’s a job, it may be someone at the door with an offer. Whatever form you choose to use, imagine that you allow yourself to accept. Now, tell the Universe “Thank you!” You can add more to it, such as “Thank you, Universe for sending me the love I deserve” or “Thank you, Universe for sending me my dream job!” Whatever you choose, just know that the last step in manifesting on The Luckiest Day of the Year is accepting and saying thank you!

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The World Reversed  may show up to reveal to you that what you thought was a successful accomplishment will continue to bring you feelings of struggle.   You’ve worked so hard to get what you wanted but now it doesn’t feel as you thought it should.  Is it just a set back or delay in gratification or is this not what you thought it would be?

In the case of a client, she had married a man whom she thought was the perfect match for her.  She dated many “bad boys” in the past, the kinds of guys who were uber hot, but also uber terrible at commitment and fidelity.  So of course this level headed sweetheart with his calm demeanor, great job and amazing family really seemed like “husband material.”  After three years of dating, they married in a storybook setting that even a Disney Princess would envy.   Yet, now just barely two years in, the magic has already dulled – the sex is almost non existent and there is a brother/sister energy between them.  This gorgeous woman tells me even attempts at dressing sexy are met with responses that feel like “meh” from her often distant hubby.  

This doesn’t have to mean the end for this couple.  While two years into a marriage seems to be too soon to have that level of boredom, the rest of the cards are important for this reading. Marriage is a serious commitment for most people and my client takes her vows very seriously so she wanted to do what she could to make things work.   What came up next in the reading for this situation was The Moon reversed, The Wheel of Fortune reversed, The Hierophant reversed and The Empress, which showed that he had his own issues he was dealing with that he was not telling her.  It seemed that he was experiencing stress with work and money and his own perception of her need to have attention and be “spoiled” created some resentment.  Through couples therapy it was revealed that he has always had the feeling that she was settling to be with him, and with money being a possible issue, he created this resentment that he would not be good enough for her if she knew this.  The thing is, she had a job in which she was making great money and didn’t marry him for that.  So while he has to own up to his own feelings of insecurity and the poor way he was taking it out on her, she’s  also looking into whatever energy and attitude she was sending out that may have made the relationship feel unbalanced. 

What I love about Tarot in relationship readings is not that it tells you your relationship outcome but more importantly that it can give you insight on what is really happening and advice on how to take action. There are so many things that are left unsaid, but yet the resentments exist and often grow.   A Lover’s Tarot Reading allows clients to see what they might not be consciously aware of, but can now address.  Not all readings have relationships come out with happy results, but most turn out to be the best solutions for overall and long term happiness.

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When reading about a person, The Devil card can symbolize a man or woman of money or erotic power, aggressive, controlling, and in may cases, highly addictive energy. We don’t judge and say its a “bad person” but certainly a powerful person who is hard to resist.  With my clients, maybe this card represents a person who spends lots of money on beautiful things and fun experiences, is amazing and highly addictive in bed and/or gives them an excess of adoration and attention.  Yes, I know, who doesn’t want some of that, at least once in a while?  Well, because often there is a big price to pay.  So, I know when this card shows up, this means that they may need to be careful or they will end up needing this powerful person to give them false confidence and identity.   But if The Devil comes up in the card placement signifying their own energy,  I know that they may be engaging in their own highly manipulative, obsessive behaviors.  There could be an interdependent relationship in which the addict and pusher have created a relationship that is not healthy for either.

With two of my clients The Devil has shown up to represent people from their recent past relationships.   And here is where things get tricky…

Client Stories:

“T” is a business/manifesting coaching client who can’t focus on her projects because she is currently obsessed with an ex and his perceived happiness with a new woman.   She wavers between talking about how terrible he is and also how much she misses the way he spoiled her. Although she knows its “wrong” she is very jealous of the new woman who in her mind is getting all kinds of “good stuff” like exotic trips and shopping sprees.   She knows that she was authentic to herself for breaking up with him because his hyper controlling and critical behavior towards her diminished her self esteem and caused her to constantly doubt herself.   Yet, she wavers between whether she made a mistake in leaving and wanting him to be unhappy in his new relationship, which she is convinced is a disaster in the making.  So during the Tarot Reading segment of our session she wants to ask questions like “is he happier with her than me?” “Is he more f*cked up about our break up than I am?”

“J” is a Tarot client who is obsessed with his ex, a beautiful older woman who in his mind can attract and be with any one she wants.   He believed her to be the “perfect woman.”  So when she told him that he wasn’t up to par in the financial aspect of his life and therefore would seek a more wealthy partner (while continuing to date him!)  his self esteem took a huge hit.   Mind you, this is a good looking, ambitious and artistically talented guy.   There are many women that are interested in him.  But his heart and mind always went back to her.  He was finally able to walk away but her recent attempts at spending time together has him confused.   He tells me he doesn’t want her back, but he is obsessed with making her want him and to admit that he was the best thing that ever happened to her.   So a question he often wants to ask?  “How can I make her become obsessed with me?”  This my friends, is a game that you can not win.

Lessons:

For both of these clients, I recommended focusing on their own life goals not on another person.  Yes, it may seem cliche but its so true.  When we put our energy on another person and try to control an outcome, especially one that has a negative intention, we are only hurting ourselves.  Whenever we think we want to manipulate another person’s happiness then we bring up the darkness and sadness in our own lives.  This multiplies when it causes us to take time away from focusing on and moving towards the amazing things that are in our future.

This quote from Buddha is succinct in this lesson:

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

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I love “LOVE” so its fun for me when the  “Love Bug” takes over my clients.  I consider them “bitten” when they meet someone special and suddenly they are all googly eyed and giggly.   What usually happens is they set up a Date Debriefing Session.  What is that?  Its when my clients  call me right after their dates to set up a Tarot Session.  They tell me its because having the session is like talking to a girl friend, a counselor and a tarot reader all rolled into one person, with no worry of judgement or bias.

Just this weekend, I saw a client who had a date with this guy whom she had been chatting with on the phone and texting for several weeks before they finally met. Their busy schedules  made getting together a little challenging.  But their relationship grew strong through their many conversations.   She told me he was single, successful (owned several businesses), had several homes in different states, was funny,  spoke four languages, and was “very good looking” according to his photos.  Quite a “catch,” yes?  But so is she.  Anyway, you can imagine the pressure that was building between them.  Would he be everything she thought he was?  Would she live up to his expectations?  So the date finally came around and…

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No,  thank goodness it wasn’t a Catfish thing, he was everything that he presented to be.  But the feelings were way more intense and also at times much more awkward than she expected.   After the date she wasn’t sure how he felt about her, and more importantly, how SHE felt about HIM.   So during the Date Debriefing Session we did several readings.  The first was a general reading on the energy of her life as a whole.  I do this first to see if there is anything going on that could possibly be affecting her energy around love, dating and being open – before we go into the specifics of the date.  Then we went into the outlook of the date.   What were the high points and what were some challenges about their get together?  I also did a Lovers Spread to look into their energy as a couple.  Would it work out in the long run?  What were they really feeling about each other?  What could block or help their progress?

Through our session my client was able to step back from her “spinning” emotions to have a more realistic view of what was going on.  Prior to our session she didn’t even want to talk to her friends, because she didn’t know what she was feeling much less able to explain it to someone else.  I helped her get clarity about the things she really liked about him and the date and what seemed to be some challenges.

Without giving too much away, the readings did show that while there was a really strong connection (The Lovers and the Magician), the romantic partnership would have lots of challenges (The Wheel of Fortune reversed),  so they each have to decide if they are ready to deal with those issues at this time (The Chariot reversed and Temperance).   What she told me she found helpful was that she had more clarity about how she saw and felt about him and the situation, and with that, she could make better decisions on the progress of the relationship.  Of course, as we finished our session he called to set up another date.   So, this is only the beginning of their love story…

ImageMy 14-year old niece is awesome at Photoshop so I hired her to make me some Manifesting Mantras using my BFF’s Vanity Girl Hollywood mirrors.  (Thanks Jordyn!)

What are Manifesting Mantras and whats the connection with mirrors? Well, when we look in a mirror we can choose to see ourselves in a positive light by focusing on what’s amazing and beautiful, or we can focus on what we dislike and make ourselves depressed in the process. Have you ever noticed the way that many lonely, unhappy and financially struggling people talk? What words do they use? What they have accepted as the truth for themselves?  What we choose to see and what we focus on greatly affects our self esteem and how we move and present ourselves in the world.

With Manifesting Mantras you can choose to look in the mirror and tell yourself wonderful positive things about what you see (“I love my body that is unique and special”), what you want to create (“I am in the process of having a successful multi million dollar business”), or what you want to feel (“I choose to share my happiness today”)

A Manifesting Mantra can help you change your outlook and how you feel about your life as you are saying to your subconscious mind, “I am taking responsibility. I am aware that there is something I can do to change.” When you pay attention to your thoughts, you can begin to eliminate the ones creating experiences you do not want in your life.

WHAT TO DO:

Twice a day, stand in front of a mirror and repeat your positive affirmation ten times. 

This week’s Manifesting Mantra

Always believe something wonderful is about to happen”

If doubts, fears or negative thoughts come up, just recognize them for what they are—old limiting beliefs that want to stay around. Say to them gently: Go away- I no longer need you. And then repeat your positive affirmation again.

happy couple

I met with a lovely couple last night.  They wanted to do The Lovers (couple) Reading because they felt they needed some insight on what was going on with their relationship.  While there were some challenges around a few issues (one likes to go out more than the other, they have different tastes in movies, one is too messy, etc)  their biggest thing was that they both have said they want to get married but each felt that maybe the other was not quite ready for that huge step.  What I love about using Tarot for these kinds of things is that it helps to create a more open dialogue.  What I mean by this is if the cards suggest that one person in the relationship may be too controlling or needy its easier for the person to “hear” than if the partner actually said it.  Mostly because what that means is that the “needy” person may have already secretly felt that he/she were acting as such.   Also, the insights are coming from the cards and me and not the partner who could potentially be in big trouble for saying such things! So basically the cards may allow the couple to listen from a more detached perspective.

I don’t want to give away too much of what was said, but through the reading they were able to bring out their deepest concerns (Do you really love me or just want to be married – to anyone? Are you really ready to be married or are you just afraid to lose me?).   These are really valid concerns that many people bring up in relationship readings and  the cards were able to allow them to bring up these issues and then talk about them openly and get really great dialogue going.

So, what was the outcome? To be married or not to be married?  Well, I am expecting to get an invite to a really special event sometime in the next year….

*THE LOVERS COUPLE TAROT READING – $250

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The Lovers Tarot Reading will give you and your Love the insight you’re looking for when you’re starting a new relationship, wondering about your current one’s compatibility, or deciding on whether the relationship has run its course. 

What The Lovers Tarot Reading Reveals

This special couples reading can tell you and your partner what you need to know about:

  • Whether or not you are deeply connected and meant for a long lasting love
  • Insight on current challenges
  • Discover what issues from the past may be blocking you from getting to the next level of your relationship
  • Receive clarity on what each of you really feel about the relationship
  • Whether or not you an/or your partner feel  completely committed
  • Deciphering the meaning behind your significant other’s actions (or figuring out why they don’t do or say the things you’d like them to)
  • Advice from the Universe on what to do next

The Lovers Tarot Reading includes:

• approx 75 Minute Reading & Coaching (in person or via phone)

• The Lovers Reading Report . Includes Summaries on each reading and Key Points, Action Steps and Strategies.

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During our 3rd week of Love Club (my Ready for Love Manifesting Group) one of the group members had an exciting announcement. “I have a boyfriend now!” she told the rest of the group who was surprised but very happy for her. How did that happen so fast? We were only in Week 3 after all. The truth is I had been working with her in a one on one coaching program (focusing on career issues) for several weeks. During one of our sessions, while making her Life Vision Board, I noticed that she had everything she was dreaming of represented on her board…except any pictures that had to do with Love! Why? I asked. She didn’t even notice, or so she said. When we delved a little deeper it became clear that her negative feelings about past relationships, her own guilt about certain things she did, and her desire to keep her independence was making her subconsciously and consciously push away real relationships. She was in fact currently dating a few guys. One of them sounded pretty promising. A nice, handsome guy who was really sweet to her. Yet she didn’t seem to have much excitement for him. She focused more on another one, who, after hearing about his attitudes and actions, didn’t sound to be very “boyfriendy.”

When I see “blocks” within my clients I suggest, before moving forward, to release those things that keep them from getting what they really want. So I gave her some homework which consisted of doing a little personal inventory and then gave her a releasing ritual. Over the next couple of sessions she said she felt lighter and was getting more clarity about her love life.

By the time Love Club started, just a few weeks later, her energy felt open & positive and she was ready to address her issues. Let me say this is KEY to finding love. You may say that you want love in your life, but if you are still closed and you allow excuses, fear and negative energy to get in your way, you will find it very challenging. During group we did more “work” getting to the bottom of their issues, releasing negative energy, and finding clarity to move towards the love they want.

So it was actually very natural that she started to see that the emotionally healthy guy (who I saw as a great fit for her) was the one she really wanted. And when they were on their 5th date and he asked what she thought about being his girlfriend, she happily said “Yes!” Now they are in a committed relationship and are deliciously healthy and adorable. Drama free, which to emotionally unhealthy people may seem “boring” but to those in a better emotional space, know there is more time and room for amazing positive experiences together. I’m still working with her on career issues as well and let me say, her life is truly magical like a ROCK STAR 😉

“There is only one success – to be able to spend your life in your own way.”

~ Christopher Morley

Almost daily clients come to me seeking advice and guidance about their “life path.” I hear questions like “which direction should I be going towards in my career?” or “what should I be doing with my life?” Even the most confident and ambitious person may come to that cross roads in their life where they no longer feel comfortable with direction their life has taken them. Somewhere along the way, they may have made decisions that were more about being practical and lost track of what really made them happy or why they chose that profession in the first place.

This reminds me of last week, when my BFF Maxine and I had a lovely 3-hour lunch on a Tuesday at our favorite fun sushi spot in West Hollywood. We have weekly appointed “girl time” in which we also incorporate our “co-coaching” business sessions somewhere in the middle of the food, drinks and laughter. On this particular day, we both stopped to acknowledge how fortunate we were to be doing exactly what we wanted in our careers. Ok, so the conversation actually went something like this.

ME: “Hey, isn’t it awesome that we are doing exactly what we love?

HER: “OMG, totally! I am so crushing on my career!” (Yes, even as adult entrepreneurial women we still talk this way) .

Being friends since we were 11, Maxine and I know exactly what makes the other happy, what our true skills are and what motivates us. Because we love proving our own points, we made a list of why we had super-crushes on our careers (when we were in high school this was usually a list of our super-crushes on boys. Oh, who am I kidding. We’ve made crush lists all our lives and we still do).

ME: (as a Tarot Reader and Manifesting Coach/Entrepreneur) I have always loved helping people, using my knowledge of psychology/human behavior, being independent/not having other people tell me what to do, telling other people what to do, using my intuition to see how a situation will lead to an outcome, crisis counseling, creating programs, using Tarot cards, using Law of Attraction, flexible schedule/ability to travel, tied to the celebrity & entertainment world, public speaking, empowering people, lots of social interaction, income that has no salary limits.

MAXINE: (as Founder and Chief of Vanity Girl Hollywood/Brand Ambassador/Entrepreneur) She loves glamour, make up, sparkly things, talking about/creating/surrounding herself in beauty, luxury, using her skills in PR, marketing and branding, international travel, connecting people, celebrities & entertainment, networking, red carpet events, writing, public speaking, flexible schedule, business, and unlimited income potential.

It’s pretty exciting to know that we have created so much happiness + success in our businesses. What’s more exciting is that our businesses continue to grow because they don’t feel like work, so they move (mostly) with ease and grace. The truth is, everyone can create careers that they love. If you know what you want to spend your time doing, where your skills are, and how those skills can help others then you are more than halfway there.

Working with my clients through this process is actually really fun. I start with some basics, which include confidence building which helps to remind them that they can and have already created many things in their lives out of “nothing.” Then we move towards finding out their skills and passions. Just last night I had a 60 minute session with a new client in Boston and helped her carve out a new path for her career. She’s moving away from real estate and going into the parenting advice arena. She’s totally excited and invigorated now and I am excited to see how she progresses. One of my other clients who has been through my manifesting groups as well as individual coaching, is a beautiful super-social woman with pretty impressive flirting skills . She’s also a lover of love and always notices women’s engagement rings. Is it any surprise that she’s crushing on the Love & Attraction Coaching biz we developed for her?  And to find your Career Crush,  you don’t have to have dreams of being an entrepreneur.   I had a client who is tri lingual and has an MBA but she came to realize she wanted to be an Executive Assistant.   Why?  Because she loved supporting powerful people, being the behind-the-scenes hero and she wanted the prestige of  working for a Fortune 500 company.  Plus she said she loved dressing up and working in an office.

The biggest obstacle that stops you from attracting your dream career is not that it doesn’t exist (it does) or that you can’t make money doing what you love (you can). You must first believe that you can do it. But isn’t that amazing that you have control over that? You can change how you feel and your mind set about your career. It’s all up to you.

If you are ready to find some clarity about your life direction let me know how I can help. As you know from reading this, I would love to.

“Watch your thoughts; they become
words. Watch your words; they become
actions. Watch your actions, they
become habits. Watch your habits, they
become character. Watch your
character; it becomes your destiny.”

~ Frank Outlaw


Most of us don’t realize how powerful words are. Every day we go around talking about what we don’t want, what we don’t like and/or what we want to avoid, not realizing that we are actually giving power to those things. By talking about them we give them energy and life. So instead of removing them from our life, we’re bringing them closer. What you focus on expands, so even if you are saying the words “I don’t want” you’re still focusing on that issue. And don’t you notice when you talk about what you don’t want, there’s an “ugly” feeling that comes over you? I know when I talk about what I DO want, I get excited. I get happy. I get moving. That’s the kind of feeling I want. And quite simply, ugly negative feelings are yucky, so I move away from them as much as possible.

This is an especially important point in manifesting. Working with clients, I often hear them tell me what they don’t want. “I don’t want to work so many long hours!” “I don’t want to marry a cheater!” and “I don’ t want to date a younger guy!” That’s fine for getting clarity. I want my clients to know what they want to move away from in order to be clear on what they want to move towards. But once you know what you DON’T want, you really have to let it go. You can’t keep thinking about it. It’s time to locus on the DO WANTS.

For example, I have a really attractive client; she’s loving, intelligent, ambitious and talented. At the time I started working with her she had some blocks about finding a healthy partner. And her biggest don’t want in dating? “I DO NOT want to date a younger guy!” She kept focusing on this, even though I urged her to let it go. She brought it up at every session. So even though she was great at removing her blocks and becoming open, she attracted – you guessed it – a younger boyfriend. But in many ways, it turned out great, because they are still together over a year later. The funny thing is the men who are attracted to her these days (just by being out in the world) are mostly younger guys! Another client of mine focused on being an international traveler. Mind you, at the time she had never been outside of the US except for a trip to Tijuana in college. She talked about it to everyone she could find and eventually attracted travel partners, good advice and great deals. A year and a half later, she’s been to Taiwan, Canada, Spain and Italy.

Try This:

  • Understand that your words generate a vibration that is either positive or negative.
  • When you use the words don’t, not and no, you continue to give more attention, energy and focus to what you are referring to.
  • Write down a list of 10 things that you DO NOT want.
  • Based on what you don’t want, now write down what you DO want.
  • Cross off (burn!) the list of DO NOT wants.
  • Only refer to the DO want list. Focus on this list every day. Get excited about them! Bring them closer to you.

Young Woman on Beach

When I look  at my clients and friends who have experienced extraordinary amounts of success in manifesting their goals, I notice that many of them have a similar out look about “failing” – they aren’t scared of it.   Their mindset is  different.  For them its more exciting to go after what they want,  than it is scary to fail.

Successful people will tell you they have failed. That, in fact, they have failed many times. The difference between these high achievers and the rest is that even though you have heard and read all those familiar quotes about failing and the value of lessons learned, successful people actually believe them.

If you want to experience more success, it is important for you to start looking forward to failing.   Make it part of the process, and believe that with each try and failure, you are learning more and more – not just about the thing that you want but about yourself.  You are learning what it takes to make you happy, what you need to do, and who you need to be, in order to succeed.

Try This:  Every day take a risk.  Start small.

  • Try something new.   An exotic  dish at a new restaurant.
  • Spend more money on something you think you might love.
  • Travel somewhere.  It doesn’t have to be far.
  • Mix it up.  Try a new route to work.  Walk there.  Ride a bike.  Take  public transportation.
  • Make a new friend.  Go on Meetup.com and pick an event and go.  Take a friend, or even better, go by yourself.  It makes you have to meet people if you are alone.
  • Start a side project.  You love taking photos and been told you are great at it?  Start a new side photography biz.
  • Try a new form  of exercise.  Used to doing yoga only?  Try Pilates or the Bar Method. Get a trainer and learn how to properly use the different machines at your gym.

Taking these kinds of “risks” every day may soon feel like fun and when things don’t work out the way you want (aka failing) you can brush it off and try something else.   That is a winning Manifesting Mindset!