
I’ve seen and heard this many times – a client will tell me they want something, such as a new job or a love relationship, but then the next words that come out of their mouth is
“but I don’t know if I believe that it exists” or “I don’t think it will really happen for me.”
Desires vs. Beliefs means that what you say you want and what you believe is your “reality” is at odds with each other. In your heart you know you really want something but your head cuts you off with “stop with that silly daydreaming!” So guess what? Your beliefs will most often win. Why? Because when we believe something to be true, we look for proof -reasons why – it has to be true, even if it works against our heart’s desires.
When working with my clients, I use the Tarot to help them get clear on what they want, which is really Stage One of Manifesting – CLARITY. Once their desires are clear we look for the blocks, like the opposing beliefs we were just talking about. A client from this weekend told me that he wanted to leave his job for a better paying one that he could be passionate about. Then I waited for what I knew would come next “…but I don’t think I can find that.”
What I suggest for my clients to do is, instead of finding reasons why something can’t happen, find reasons why it can. And make those reasons so strong that your beliefs change to help you find your desires, not fight against them. I know that it may be natural for some people to have a negative belief come up first so I suggest you try this
Write down at the top of a piece of paper what you want to manifest.
Example:
I want to get married and have a family
Next, write down the first reason that comes into your head why this will not happen for you
I don’t believe that there is anyone out there who I can fall in love with and will fall in love with me
Now, what I need you to do is write down 5 Reasons Why it is Not True
1. I haven’t really been looking for love, I’ve been a hermit
2. I know people who have fallen in love and gotten married who are similar to me
3. I am a lovable person with lots to offer a partner
4. There are plenty of people out there that are ready to have a serious relationship and at least one of them is looking for someone like me
5. People fall in love every day
Do this exercise to combat every negative thought that comes into your head. If the thought is: “I can’t leave my relationship because I can’t find someone else to love me” then write down 5 reasons why that is not true. It must be at least five because its important that the reasons why its not true are stronger than why you think this negative belief is true. When you practice this way of thinking, soon enough those reasons why you CAN get something will win over and law of attraction will work in your favor. And yes, while it may not be an overnight change -you’ve had those negative beliefs for a while after all -I’ve seen amazing things happen with my clients all the time. They have gone from being in jobs they can’t stand to attracting or creating a career they love. They have attracted healthy love into their lives when their old beliefs told them love was not meant for them.
Even if you are a skeptic, try it, and see what happens. I would love to hear what changes happen for you – Julierose@livelovetarot.com