Archives for posts with tag: Tarot coaching by Jules

 

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I am so excited about a new Tarot project I’ve been working on!  I’ve recently commissioned a very talented artist, Michael Shirley, to design a set of Tarot cards for me.  I’d love to share a sneak peek and while giving you a Tarot Tuesday Card of the Day!

The Judgement card shows up to tell you to take some time out for self reflection. Its your time to move forward to a new, more elevated phase in your life, but before that happens take the opportunity now to stop and think about lessons learned. What are the things you want to leave behind and what do you want to take with you as you start a new chapter in your life? Are there people you can choose to forgive, are there some shifts in outlook and emotions that are important to make? Often this is the stage of creating deeper awareness and paradigm shifts. Let go of unnecessary “baggage” and create space for new memories ~ you’re about to begin your exciting new journey!

 

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Lately I’ve been noticing a theme with my Tarot clients…

they’ve been coming to me with a strong desire to know what the cards have to say about their current love relationship.  Yes, I know, that’s par for the course for a Tarot Reader/Coach like me.  But these days many of my clients are bringing their partners with them so that I can do a Lovers Tarot Reading.  This is *awesome* because I get a chance to not only see what’s really going on with both sides of the relationship but I can also work with the reactions once the card meanings are revealed.  What do I mean by that?  Well, with one of the couples from a recent Lovers Tarot Reading, the male partner was hesitant about coming to see me because he was dubious about what the cards could possibly reveal about the situation.  Being a man of “logic” he told her he doubted that Tarot cards could tell him anything of value. Nice. But he came because, well, she pretty much insisted.  He immediately changed his tune when he realized that the cards brought up issues that he had been side stepping for a while, like the fact that he felt she was taking him for granted and had lately been spending way more time out with her friends than at home with him.  If he hadn’t come to the Lovers Tarot session he wouldn’t have been able to say how he felt without seeming like he was being a whiny b*yotch.  So what was his “solution” pre Tarot session?  Sulking. And doing the passive aggressive withholding sex thing.  Ummm yaaaa, NEVER a good thing…

Anyway, the result of the readings not only gave them clarity about what was happening and opened up a dialog but also helped to provide some really specific answers on how to fix things between them.   He enjoyed the session so much he even said “Make sure you put that in the Lovers Report!” when the cards revealed she was indeed putting others ahead of him and how it made him feel.   From the readings he learned she needed him to be more straightforward and vocal with his needs and he has seen that by doing this, there has been very positive responses from her (i.e. lots of attention, affection and time).

In another situation, the couple that came to see me seemed at first to be pretty drama free, until the Moon reversed showed up to reveal that one of the partners didn’t have much trust for the other.  Oops .  While the cards also revealed that there was no real reason for not trusting her partner, the Devil  card showed up to tell us that she had some serious trust issues from past relationships that were still plaguing her. But she hadn’t told her current love that she still hadn’t fully healed from these past traumas.  So while one person was blissfully ignorant, the other put on a faux happy face that was hiding some demons.  Through our session they were able to address her trust issues in a real way and create a plan to help her feel more confident about herself and the relationship.   And with the Report that came with the reading, they are able to refer to it and look back at any advice given by the cards.

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If you and your love are in need of some clarity and want to take positive action, make an appointment with me now for the Lovers Tarot Reading.

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I was speaking with a client today, this really lovely woman in New York, and we started off by having her tell me about her successes of the week   How did she know she had some success? Because she said she had “proof” of how she is attracting the things that she wants in her life.  So we went over these things that showed her that she was on the right track of having a successful directing and writing career.

I love when my clients seek proof that they are on the right track.  To me its similar to when people look for “signs” because they basically serve as the same thing.  Reasons to confirm that you are moving forward and improving.   Proof and signs are every where, but many times people use them as reasons to say why they are failures.  “See, Julie? We broke up because its a sign that I suck in relationships”   Well, no, what if its a sign or proof that you are being authentic with yourself and you can no longer tolerate relationships that don’t work for you?  What if its proof that you and your partner didn’t really communicate well, and its a sign that you just need to learn how to do that better and/or find someone who is a better fit?  Its really how you position it, isn’t it?

Signs and proof are like the Tarot cards – there are no “wrong” or “scary” cards, even the ones that seem intimidating like the Devil and the Death cards are just like all the others, symbols of what is happening in your life, and how you can improve your situation.  In my sessions with clients, I use the cards to help them see where they are doing well, and where they can possibly make some changes.  If their career reading is full of what they might think are “negative” cards what we do is find the solution for a smoother path.

TRY THIS:

Below is an exercise to help you find proof that you are succeeding.  What you will do is argue against your negative self, that side that says you suck.  I want you to fight with passion against that Negative Nelly and let her know that her statement about you is false!

On  a blank piece of paper,  write down the numbers 1-3 and leave about 3 inches in between.   With each number write down each thing you have been focusing on to create/change/manifest.   Now write down 3-5 things that prove that you have been taking actions towards these things.

Example:

Proof Exercise 

1) I want to increase my business income by at least 20%

Proof that you’ve been moving forward with this

– I’ve asked for  help from friends or family for ideas to promote my business

– I have been reading books to help me learn more

– I’ve started new social media pages for marketing

– I’ve been working on an affiliate program

– I’ve been networking 2 times a month

Do this exercise whenever you feel stuck or are being hard on yourself about your ability to take action. This exercise will serve as your Proof List to show you that you’ve been taking action.  If you don’t have a big list, that’s ok, just do something now to add to it.

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The Moon Reversed tells us that there is a situation that may feel very unclear  and confusing to you.   What you thought you knew or believed to be true about your situation is now turning out to be false and/or disappointing.   This card is showing up to tell you that you need more clarity on the situation before you move forward.  If you are waiting on an answer from someone, it may unfortunately take quite a bit longer than you would like for it to.  There are still some things to learn about this person and the situation and its best that you be patient while the truth unfolds.  

For a client of mine, this card came up to show her that a job she had been “offered” from a friend was not actually as easy to get as she thought.  The impression he gave her was that he was overseeing the hiring of the well-paying position and if she accepted, it would be hers.  After coming in the discuss the job, she found that she still had to go through an extensive screening and interview process just like other candidates.  And his was not the final word for hiring for the position.  Of course she came to me upset and with questions about what to do next.   Luckily for her the rest of her cards revealed that while it would be a longer process, the rest of the team would be impressed wit her and she would eventually get the job, which she did…3 months later!

During our 3rd week of Love Club (my Ready for Love Manifesting Group) one of the group members had an exciting announcement. “I have a boyfriend now!” she told the rest of the group who was surprised but very happy for her. How did that happen so fast? We were only in Week 3 after all. The truth is I had been working with her in a one on one coaching program (focusing on career issues) for several weeks. During one of our sessions, while making her Life Vision Board, I noticed that she had everything she was dreaming of represented on her board…except any pictures that had to do with Love! Why? I asked. She didn’t even notice, or so she said. When we delved a little deeper it became clear that her negative feelings about past relationships, her own guilt about certain things she did, and her desire to keep her independence was making her subconsciously and consciously push away real relationships. She was in fact currently dating a few guys. One of them sounded pretty promising. A nice, handsome guy who was really sweet to her. Yet she didn’t seem to have much excitement for him. She focused more on another one, who, after hearing about his attitudes and actions, didn’t sound to be very “boyfriendy.”

When I see “blocks” within my clients I suggest, before moving forward, to release those things that keep them from getting what they really want. So I gave her some homework which consisted of doing a little personal inventory and then gave her a releasing ritual. Over the next couple of sessions she said she felt lighter and was getting more clarity about her love life.

By the time Love Club started, just a few weeks later, her energy felt open & positive and she was ready to address her issues. Let me say this is KEY to finding love. You may say that you want love in your life, but if you are still closed and you allow excuses, fear and negative energy to get in your way, you will find it very challenging. During group we did more “work” getting to the bottom of their issues, releasing negative energy, and finding clarity to move towards the love they want.

So it was actually very natural that she started to see that the emotionally healthy guy (who I saw as a great fit for her) was the one she really wanted. And when they were on their 5th date and he asked what she thought about being his girlfriend, she happily said “Yes!” Now they are in a committed relationship and are deliciously healthy and adorable. Drama free, which to emotionally unhealthy people may seem “boring” but to those in a better emotional space, know there is more time and room for amazing positive experiences together. I’m still working with her on career issues as well and let me say, her life is truly magical like a ROCK STAR 😉

“There is only one success – to be able to spend your life in your own way.”

~ Christopher Morley

Almost daily clients come to me seeking advice and guidance about their “life path.” I hear questions like “which direction should I be going towards in my career?” or “what should I be doing with my life?” Even the most confident and ambitious person may come to that cross roads in their life where they no longer feel comfortable with direction their life has taken them. Somewhere along the way, they may have made decisions that were more about being practical and lost track of what really made them happy or why they chose that profession in the first place.

This reminds me of last week, when my BFF Maxine and I had a lovely 3-hour lunch on a Tuesday at our favorite fun sushi spot in West Hollywood. We have weekly appointed “girl time” in which we also incorporate our “co-coaching” business sessions somewhere in the middle of the food, drinks and laughter. On this particular day, we both stopped to acknowledge how fortunate we were to be doing exactly what we wanted in our careers. Ok, so the conversation actually went something like this.

ME: “Hey, isn’t it awesome that we are doing exactly what we love?

HER: “OMG, totally! I am so crushing on my career!” (Yes, even as adult entrepreneurial women we still talk this way) .

Being friends since we were 11, Maxine and I know exactly what makes the other happy, what our true skills are and what motivates us. Because we love proving our own points, we made a list of why we had super-crushes on our careers (when we were in high school this was usually a list of our super-crushes on boys. Oh, who am I kidding. We’ve made crush lists all our lives and we still do).

ME: (as a Tarot Reader and Manifesting Coach/Entrepreneur) I have always loved helping people, using my knowledge of psychology/human behavior, being independent/not having other people tell me what to do, telling other people what to do, using my intuition to see how a situation will lead to an outcome, crisis counseling, creating programs, using Tarot cards, using Law of Attraction, flexible schedule/ability to travel, tied to the celebrity & entertainment world, public speaking, empowering people, lots of social interaction, income that has no salary limits.

MAXINE: (as Founder and Chief of Vanity Girl Hollywood/Brand Ambassador/Entrepreneur) She loves glamour, make up, sparkly things, talking about/creating/surrounding herself in beauty, luxury, using her skills in PR, marketing and branding, international travel, connecting people, celebrities & entertainment, networking, red carpet events, writing, public speaking, flexible schedule, business, and unlimited income potential.

It’s pretty exciting to know that we have created so much happiness + success in our businesses. What’s more exciting is that our businesses continue to grow because they don’t feel like work, so they move (mostly) with ease and grace. The truth is, everyone can create careers that they love. If you know what you want to spend your time doing, where your skills are, and how those skills can help others then you are more than halfway there.

Working with my clients through this process is actually really fun. I start with some basics, which include confidence building which helps to remind them that they can and have already created many things in their lives out of “nothing.” Then we move towards finding out their skills and passions. Just last night I had a 60 minute session with a new client in Boston and helped her carve out a new path for her career. She’s moving away from real estate and going into the parenting advice arena. She’s totally excited and invigorated now and I am excited to see how she progresses. One of my other clients who has been through my manifesting groups as well as individual coaching, is a beautiful super-social woman with pretty impressive flirting skills . She’s also a lover of love and always notices women’s engagement rings. Is it any surprise that she’s crushing on the Love & Attraction Coaching biz we developed for her?  And to find your Career Crush,  you don’t have to have dreams of being an entrepreneur.   I had a client who is tri lingual and has an MBA but she came to realize she wanted to be an Executive Assistant.   Why?  Because she loved supporting powerful people, being the behind-the-scenes hero and she wanted the prestige of  working for a Fortune 500 company.  Plus she said she loved dressing up and working in an office.

The biggest obstacle that stops you from attracting your dream career is not that it doesn’t exist (it does) or that you can’t make money doing what you love (you can). You must first believe that you can do it. But isn’t that amazing that you have control over that? You can change how you feel and your mind set about your career. It’s all up to you.

If you are ready to find some clarity about your life direction let me know how I can help. As you know from reading this, I would love to.

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“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” ~Dalai Lama

 

I posted this quote the other day on my Facebook page. Its a phrase I tell my clients all the time, because it is so true. While I whole heatedly encourage going after what you want, sometimes you don’t get exactly what you want because you’re supposed to get something better suited for you. The Wheel of Fortune is actually spinning in your favor, not against it. I’ve had quite a few examples in my life where this has played out. One of the most significant times happened years ago when I really wanted to continue my career in empowering young girls and women. I was so focused on this and had applied for a select few organizations that I felt very drawn to. With one of the places, I had done really well in the first interview for the position as the director of a well respected girls organization. I prepared, I bought the right outfit, I felt confident. But alas, at the time of the final interview I blew it. Not expecting a room full of the organization’s board of directors and staff, I got nervous and I choked. I was devastated. This job was “perfect” for me and it should have been mine. I didn’t really have a back up plan.

I decided to go to Hawaii to visit my sister and her family as a break to console myself, while I tried to figure out what I was going to do next. A little over a week into my trip I got a call, it was from TZONE, The Tyra Banks Foundation, could I come in next week for an interview? Ummm ya! Having heard nothing after 5 weeks after turning in my resume, I didn’t even think I had a chance. I packed my bags and said Aloha to Hawaii.

My first interview was with Tyra’s mom and she was wonderful. I felt connected, confident and pretty sure that I aced it. But then again, that happened with the other job, so what did I know? A day later, I got the call for the 2nd interview and this time it was with Tyra. It was just she and I in a big board room and her huge green eyes staring at me with no smile (excuse me, no smyze) on her face. You think Tyra is intimidating on Top Model? Try interviewing with her for her beloved TZONE, she takes it very seriously and she wants you to know it. Throughout the whole interview, she stared right at me not blinking as if she were trying to see through my eyes into my brain, as she whipped out question after question. I was very nervous. But at the end, she smiled and said “say bye to my mama before you leave” and I KNEW. I got the job. And this job was fantastic. Not only did I get to revamp and run the teen girls empowerment program and camp, I also got to meet and train some amazing professional women who were to be mentors for TZONE. I got to work with the issues that were important to me and I felt so valued. Tyra, her mom and staff were all so warm, exciting and fun -life at the Bankable office never had a dull moment. And the office was just outside of West Hollywood where I live (NOT in Downtown where the other job I thought I wanted was located) so going to work was less than a 10 minute commute . To make it even more exciting, there was a “Hollywood” aspect to this position (hey, I’m a Leo , I am naturally attracted to all things Hollywood and Entertainment) that I didn’t even realize I would love which meant partnering with other celebrities and their organizations,  like the Bruce Willis Foundation, Will and Jada Smith Foundation and a number of other well known celebrity causes. I even got to travel to NYC a few times with Tyra for exciting events and was in an episode of Top Model (very briefly, if you blink you might miss me) where she introduces her staff. I’m not gonna lie-  I loved those aspects of the job too. It was everything I wanted, but so much more. Tyra was also a huge influence on me, inspiring me to be a producer and an entrepreneur. Everything felt “possible.” The Wheel of Fortune had  definitely become my career card.

While its fun to reminisce, my point is, if the Universe doesn’t give you what you think you want, its probably because you are really meant to have something so much better. That’s why when you send out your positive vibes and ask for what you want, always add “I would love this or better” because the Universe has a limitless imagination and the “Better” can be beyond what you could ever dream.

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